@Mattr I was nominated for a Nobel Peace Prize.
My mother regularly beat me, yelled at me and told me she wished I’d been aborted. Noone believed me because to outsiders she was the perfect housewive, always smiling, always friendly and happy. My friends and teachers only told me how lucky I was to have such a nice and caring mother and that I shouldn’t tell lies about her.
Luckily, my husband believes me but he’s never met her since I went no contact years ago. But while I was still living with my parents noone ever believed me.
Lol my mom told me she regretted giving birth to me because I expressed suicidal thoughts.
I came from a “communist” country where there was a strict birth control policy because of thr fears of overpopulation, I was the second child my mother illegally gave birth to. So she said because she broke the law to have me and had to pay huge fines, that I owe her or something. And even my grandmother said I owe my mom for risking legal punishment to give birth to me. And that suicide is cowardly and disrespectful/ungrateful for her “sacrifices” and if she had known about my thoughts, she wouldn’t have “wasted so much resources” on me.
Bro, I really wanna be that type of dipshit kid and say: “well if you have me so much, then maybe the party should’ve forcibly sterilized you before you gave birth to me”, but I just ended up crying and have an existential crisis, my birth wasn’t even supposed to happen, the fucking government literally hated my existence anyways, rejected my existence, I’m just another anomaly, born only out of sheer luck, the card were never really stacked in my favor to begin with. I think all the bad luck I’m getting might be just nature trying to course correct, to get rid of me, the anamaly.
That was a terrible thing for your mother to say, never mind even think. You’re not an anomaly, and you don’t deserve to feel that way.
I hope things get better for you.
Oh she didn’t literally say that, its just my internal monologue. Sorry for being confusing, I’m kinda just rambling.
But like I literally am an anomoly, as in the legal sense. Having two sons is not really “normal” in China, at least prior 2015, so like, I’m pretty sure people would find it weird if they knew I was the second son. Give how much “patriotic education” kids get, if I had stayed there any longer, kids would be like: “Wait you have an older brother? So you are an illegal child? Unpatriotic!” (at least this is how I imagined it would go, luckily I didn’t have to find out, since we left the country when I was young)
And its more about the legal identity thing that makes me feel this way. They literally just straight up refuse to issue IDs or allow me to be registered in the Hukou, for a “crime” (a purely political crime btw) that my parents did, like wtf did I do? I didn’t even ask to be born, they’re just gonna try to punish me for… existing without their approval. So my mother is like: “If we hadn’t paid the fine, you would not have those legal documents, so we can’t prove to the US Immigration officials of your identity, so you’d be left behind” Okay she didn’t literally say it, but its implied when she said something along the lines of (paraphrased) “Remember how I paid a huge fine because I gave birth to you?”
The US is a raging shit heap at the moment, but it’s normal to have multiple sons here. Even if it wasn’t the norm though, or even against the law (which is so bizarre to me), you have every right to exist. You don’t owe anyone anything for being born, and you do not need anyone’s approval to exist.
I mean yes I know I shouldn’t be seeking external approval for my existence.
But like its just a weird psychological phenomenon amonst people who were, in some ways, “rejected”, like people whose bio-parents got drunk and had sex, and never intending to reproduce so their birth was merely an accident, or kids born as a result of sexual assult, or children of extramarital affairs, or their bio-parents birth control methods (e.g. condoms) failed etc… I mean like… you know what I mean?
When you are one of these “rejected” people and you learn of your true origins, it feels depressing, and it causes existential crisis.
I don’t know if its possible to just bury this info from my brain, like… its always just gonna be sitting there in the back of your mind, making you question your entire existence.
I know it seems very small problem, but inside my mind, it’s an entire psychological battlefield. I’m pretty sure its a similar psychological phenomeon for people who were born to birth control failure, or people born as result of [SA].
I think I know what you mean. A lot of us were “accidents” lol, probably more than you realize. You aren’t alone. How you came into the world doesn’t matter, it doesn’t define you. All that matters is that you’re here now, and your life is your own to make something of. You matter.
Also, there’s nothing wrong with questioning these things that bother you, and trying to work through them. It’s good to process them and come to terms with them if you can. It’s okay to ask for help if you need it, too. But please be kind to yourself, as well.
The universe is an anomaly. It’s a miracle life is even possible at all.
Yay, we are all a bunch of SCPs 👀
Edit: Okay, oddly enough that feels better when I think of it this way. We are all anomolies! 😁
People can be idiots and not realize that social behavior can be a mask. Always smiling, well, thats hiding and acting.
I’m in pretty much the same boat. I went here to type pretty much all these words.
Oh boy! I got one of those too. My condolences to you. I know how exasperating it is to have to endure all those “I wish I had your mom. You are sooo Lucky she’s your mom” comments while dying inside. And yeah, smear campains are their thing when they are no longer in control of you, so they control the narrative. I lost all my maternal side of the family brcause of this, it hurt like a mofo but it worked out for the better for me and my husband and kid♥️ Right now on the road to no contact after years and years of grayrocking. Safe first✨️
Do you think your leaving has made some people wonder that there might be something to it?
I don’t know. She’s been painting me as the bad, unruly child that has something wrong with her since kindergarden, so I guess it would be easy for her to make it sound like I just lost my mind and shes the victim. Those who believed her will keep believing her.
Yeah, that’s bad. Good that you were able to make it out of that situation at least.
Was driving down the road with my wife and came to a stop light. We both witnessed a lone potato rolling down the street through the intersection at a pretty good clip. We both looked at each other, making sure we were seeing what we were seeing and busted out laughing.
I have absolutely no clue where it came from, and to this day remains one of the most random things I’ve seen and NOONE ever believes me when I mention it.
You’re really tempting me to roll potatoes down roads…
…but also if I caused a wreck I’d feel really bad.
The fact that you stopped first makes it hilarious, i think. The thought of it made me laugh out loud.
Pulling up to a stoplight and then seeing a potato when and where you’d expect traffic is way funnier than just seeing a potato unexpectedly.
Where it came from? Isn’t a better question who is it going to see and how did it learn traffic patterns?
Back when I was 17, I had a neighbor pull a gun right to my forehead. I shoved him away and said, in essence, “yeah, fuck you with your BB gun, I have some shopping to do”. He shot another neighbor in the gut not long after. I avoided death by dumbfounding him in a way that sound like it comes right out a daydreaming teenage fantasy.
Glad you’re OK. But also wtf is wrong with this neighbor and I hope they’re doing time?
He had been arrested by the time I came back with my grocery bags. He was the “get out of my lawn” kind of guy, who could pick a fight for the most benign reason. Last I heard of him was when his nephew emptied his house some years later. He’d been placed in a psychiatric ward.
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I woke up one morning and found a skinned moose in my yard.
RFK Jr. dumped it there
And thus the cycle has been completed
OMG!
Much better than waking up naked next to it. Not that I’d know what that’s like. Nope.
I went to a party at a friend’s house (I had never been to his house before, we were just friends from college) and a bunch of people are in his hot tub. It was dark out. I decided to get in, and assumed the deck his hot tub was sitting on continued on behind the hot tub. It did not, and there was a roughly 6 foot drop on the back side. I walk over to get in, step off the deck accidentally, do a complete front flip and land on my feet. They all yell “Are you ok?” and then I get back on the deck completely unscathed.
No one that wasn’t there ever believes this story.
That’s a crazy story. I whish you good fortune in the future too.
“Alien sighting”
Was watching a plane go along the night sky, blinking away as they do. Then it stopped moving but kept blinking for about 5 seconds. Then shot straight down to the horizon leaving a little trail of light behind like a comet or something.
Some star wars hyperspace bollocks or something
Aircraft turned away from you while climbing away, making it appear stationary. Kick on some afterburners, and it’ll take off like a bat out of hell in front of a 200’ flame.
that was cock aliens they piss me off
I always wondered why Alien UFOs wouldn’t hide in plain sight as an airplane except for the fact that the blinking lights would surely alert air control that an unregistered plane was in air space right? But I dunno its an interesting idea and your story kind of aligns with the concept
Easy, just slap an ADS transmitter on your UFO and mask as a cessna
I dont understand why people think there are no alien ships in the skies. It must be some kind of psychological self preservation. All observations points towards alien life. They are in cave paintings even.
So we are not alone. Now what? Cant do anything with that knowledge anyway. :)
I don’t think people realize just how big the universe is. Or even just our solar system. The nearest star is multiple light-years away, and as far as physicists can tell, the speed of light is basically the speed limit of all things in the universe, so at minimum they traveled for multiple years at near-light speed (already basically impossible due to the quantity of energy required) just to…??? in our atmosphere?
It took over 50 years for the Voyager probes to travel a single light minute, and Proxima Centauri, the closest star to us is 4.24 light-years away. Which means the Voyager probes will take thousands of years to travel a fraction of the distance of Proxima Centauri.
Another problem is time dialation. Suppose you happened upon a craft that could take you to Proxima Centauri at close enough to the speed of light that you would arrive there within a human lifespan, the time that would have passed on earth is actually thousands of years. So any aliens visiting the earth now would have set off during the ice age at the very latest. They absolutely wouldn’t be popping by for a quick visit then running off every few years, they would either be visiting then leaving again and not returning for many more millenia or they would be arriving and setting up permanent shop in our solar system, which we’d likely have observed by now given how many probes we send around the solar system and how many telescopes we have pointed at the sky all the time
Are we alone in the universe? Almost definitely not, considering the sheer number of planets and stars the random chance that created sentient life on earth is extremely likely to have repeated a few times, but sentient life evolving close enough to us physically and in time that both can become aware of each other and maybe even communicate? Basically impossible, at least certainly not within a timeframe that any of use can truly comprehend
I know how big it is. But aliens are not coming here in their first probes they sent out into space. If they are here, they have had space travel for at least thousands of years, probably much more. So they have found ways to travel that we are not aware of, perhaps light speed travel or possibly wormholes, teleportation, who knows.
I guess the reason people think so different about this is that they assume that aliens would travel with only human knowledge of space travel. But we have been doing it for only 75 years now, and never sent humans anywhere except the moon.
To me, looking at space travel as if others would do it the same way we do, with our limited experience… It doesnt make sense. We are beginners at space travel.
So they have found ways to travel that we are not aware of, perhaps light speed travel or possibly wormholes, teleportation, who knows.
I think you’re missing that you’re hand waving away literally the laws of physics. Light speed travel runs into a relativity problem (and relativity is so well understood at this point your phone’s GPS receiver will make adjustments to the GPS data it receives because the exactness of the data actually exposes some relativistic differences between the satellites and the ground) which I’ve already described (a few years of near-light speed travel is thousands of years on the ground)
The light speed barrier appears to be entirely unbreakable. Conservation of energy is proven in transportation and the energy sector constantly and is why near-light speed travel is highly unlikely is the amount of energy required to propel a vehicle to such speeds is absolutely immensely impossibly big, and therefore breaking the light speed barrier if it is even possible would require orders of magnitude more energy.
Oh and Wormholes and teleportation are literally pure fiction
I guess the reason people think so different about this is that they assume that aliens would travel with only human knowledge of space travel
No no. It’s because we assume aliens would be bound to the same physics as the rest of the universe is
If they are here, they have had space travel for at least thousands of years, probably much more
That is how long they would need to travel to get here from any other solar system. If aliens are coming it ain’t going to be a couple of little green men in a saucer the size of a truck, it’s going to be a generation ship, a cryoship or entirely robotic, and the current alien mythos really doesn’t fit that.
Circling back to the core claim that aliens have been visiting the earth and may or may not be abducting random farmers and probing them, the entire alien mythos is easily explained with previously-classified aircraft that were being built by the US during the cold war, drugs and mental illness, and largely doesn’t exist before the 1950s. If you read some of the very first reports of UFOs before the mythos really received much media attention they entirely don’t match the now classic imagery of little green men with giant bug-like eyes flying a circular ship, because these people didn’t already have that imagery to apply to whatever weather balloon or classified aircraft they happened to get a glance of.
Yeah. I think science fiction is exactly what we are talking about here. Its science that we think is fiction, because of our current knowledge.
Your opinion is based in current science and of course its not possible to do manned space travel across the galaxy using what we know at this point.
Im just saying that i believe its likely and possible that other species have far more advanced knowledge about space and physics then we do. I dont see why humans would have a full grasp of it at this point. Whatever laws we think are unbreakable will most likely not be.
👆 Exactly ! We think as ourselves as an intelligent species when in reality we are nothing more then ants with some tech here and there.
Imagine having a pocket CERN version like we use to have a mobile today (which is kinda a mini computer). 60 years ago we would have never imagined this could be possible.
We will probably never evolve as a “super intelligence”, we are to busy killing each other !
Yeah unless our leaders somehow evolve into decent human beings, we are going straight to the sci fi world of robot surveillance and dystopia.
Even newer tech leaders like sam altman seems completely nuts as human beings.
But its ok. Not every species is smart enough to survive and work together with its environment instead of against it. Its a shame though, because I think humans could have done amazing things. We could have built a very nice world here, with happiness as the priority. We could have explored the universe together and seen the beauty of it all.
What we did wrong was not allowing our heart to be part of decisions. We became mind only, making calculated decisions to benefit ourselves and not others.
A girl sexually assaulted me in middle school.
It is absolutely insane that people believe any woman about any sexual assault, but a man being sexually assaulted? That’s not a real thing!
To be clear, I’m not saying “believe women” is incorrect. I’m saying that disregarding any male focused SA while believing all female focused is a very troubling double standard in my eyes.
When I was around 6-7 years old (I am now 68) I was given money to get something at the store by my parents. All I remember is I no longer had the money when I got home . I did not spend the money. Have no idea what happened. Was razzed about it for years. They said I spent it on candy.
Had a similar thing happen to me, but I believe my dumb ass just lost it
Must’ve been the wind
6-7 years old
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Dammit.
Back in my day we had to make do with only shfifty five!
Went to an orgy and didn’t have sex with anyone, on purpose. I did, however, play naked baby oil handcuff twister. Which was hilarious and painful.
The internet never fails to make me feel vanilla AF.
Statistically… there’s always going to be someone invited to orgies
Mathematically… there has to be more than 2 or 3 people invited to orgies
I always like to play “Whorer Hoedown” on Halloween.
it’s a game where I watch the adults walking down my street on Halloween and see if I can guess which ones are going to the swinger orgies before they get there.
I’m pretty good tbh.
Naked baby oil handcuff twister actually sounds really super fun
I don’t see how that’s hard to believe.
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I got a moose one hunting season and decided to butcher it myself. Finished skinning the thing (took hours) and it just disappeared, no clue where it ended up.
RFK Jr’s car.
Omg I like how everyone is just doing collaborative fiction writing on here, like SCP: Lemmy Edition or something.
Lol wtf? The skin walker totally fucking played you, bro.
Wait, you skinned it for hours but it wasn’t dead, and just walked off? Or it was dead and some animal took it while you weren’t looking?
Was buying Pokemon cards 14 or so years ago. Was trying to buy a specific booster pack, but for some resaon I felt “dissociated” while my hand grabbed a totally different pack. I was so confused as to why I didn’t pick the booster I initially wanted… When I opened the pack outside the shop, I was surprised to see there was actually a super rare Lvl X holo card inside…
I almost shot myself in the knee with an arrow. I was at an archery taster session and the arrow bounced off a wooden block on the edge of the target. Arrow came flying back at me and cut a few threads on the knee pad of my trousers as it brushed my leg.
Were you almost an adventurer too?
This never gets old.
Shooting yourself in the foot + I took an arrow to the knee
I got harassed by men by the gay bar outside my apartment multiple times in my early twenties, back when I was a guy. They were all pretty minor overall, but it definitely freaked me out at the time. I lived in an apartment complex above a gay bar in downtown. It was a shitty, cheap place where there was no washer or dryer in unit and no fan in the bathroom. Mold was a constant problem.
One time, I was informed I “swish so hard I bring three people with me”, a quote that’s stuck with me forever, and then a dude stood close by while another guy stroked my face. I had my dog with me so I didn’t know what else to do and basically just ran.
Another time I was leaving the pizza shop also in this building complex, and a couple drunk guys out there struck up a conversation that quickly became my chest and crotch getting groped. Honestly less creepy than the face stroking, ngl.
I uh, transitioned since all of that happened though. And some random chick like me saying some drunk guys at the gay bar really wanted to grope me doesn’t really carry much weight at this point.
Somehow I don’t imagine gay men being the bullies/rapists that I know straight men can be. Good reminder they come in all shapes and sizes. Are these kind of encounters any less common now, post-transition?
Yeah, haven’t had any issues since, fortunately.
Yeah umm…I cam hardly remember any crazy women, but I got so much of it from men…as a man.
Forests and bears seem really tempting, I literally did research on how much it would cost.
Not everyone born with a penis is a bully/rapist. Please stop perpetuating this idea.
That’s going to be easy, because I didn’t even start
You’re right, but it’s also like a 9:1 ratio between penis-havers and vagina-havers doing the violence and the raping. 🤷♂️
Both statements can be true at the same time: The vast majority of men aren’t rapists, and the vast majority of rapists are men. That is, unfortunately, how statistics work.
That’s really quite shocking!
Is it? Are you queer? A butch lesbian just touched me in a gay bar cause she had one too many
back when I was a guy.
So, now you are girl? But you weren’t before?
Yeah, pretty much. I know different trans people think about themselves pre-transition differently, but that’s how I see it for myself
Let’s ask this a different way, you were a biological male, are you still a biological male?
I just don’t really care tbh. I know my chromosomes haven’t changed, I’m fully sterile, and at this point the nature of my biology only really effects my doctors. I’m under no delusion that I can one day give birth or anything, if that’s what you’re driving at?
So, Im sorry, for my own understanding, are you sterilized from drug treatment?
the nature of my biology only really effects my doctors.
Come on now… I know that cant be true. Friend, be true to yourself. This world can be truly backwards, dont Listening to the judgemental voices that say you need to be something different. I promise you, be your tru r self and you will be happy. Dont listen to the voices that say you are wrong a nd need to change!.. focus… get centered. Love
Oh no, I’ve had surgery. I don’t have a penis or testicles any more.
And thank you, but don’t worry. I’m pretty secure in my identity at this point. I’m much happier in my skin than I ever was before. I just meant like, I’m running on estrogen now, I have a body I can feel comfortable in, and so I don’t know that it really matters in a practical sense what chromosomes I have or whether I’m “technically male” or something.
Its wild stuff. Thank you for indulging me. I hope i could ask a couple more questions? Like, how long ago now did you get bottom surgery (I just started learning terms like that). And, not trying to dox you, but what decade of your life did you get it done? Like over 20? Under 20? Over 30, or 40? Just in general not specific. Im glad your comfortable and doing ok. Ive watched some videos of people “detransitioning” the last couple days and I feel very sorry for some of these folks, and I was watching one person yesterday that had had bottom surgery, but then later realized its not something they should have done. So yours sounded like a similar situation at least, except the regret part. Anyway, thanks again friend.
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sex != gender
Be nice. Last and only warning.
People who understand medical science don’t use the term “medical truth.”
People who understand medicine know the difference between sex and gender.
You said way more than “no man had ever had a baby.” Which is also not entirely true, trans men have gotten pregnant.
If you’re trying to say “no male human has ever gotten pregnant” well, that’s a bit fuzzy, too, if you consider everyone with an XY chromosome “male.”
trans men have gotten pregnant.
Yeah… trans men. Meaning, people that were born female. No one born male has ever been impregnated, no womb. No one born female has ever impregnated someone, no testicles. And im trying to be polite, try not to be offended but imo, that is the most crucial part, that means no has ever actually changed gender, imo. Anyone can have surgery and change their appearance, or take drugs to change how they feel, but does that really mean someone has changed changed sex? To me, not in the most defining way it hasn’t. I really hope im not missing off anyone too much. Im been as nice and cordial but plainly about my opinion. And thats all this is, my opinion.
I’m not sure who believes and who doesn’t, but I’ve been in more than 30 car collisions. I’m not sure exactly how many because I’ve lost track.
One was an offset head-on collision. I think the other driver fell asleep. He claimed I came into his lane and hit him, but the impact shattered the windshield washer fluid in my car, and destroyed the front-right tire. The impact left a puddle of fluid in the middle of my lane, and the rim of the front right wheel left grooves in the street leading from where my car stopped back to the point of impact.
I was sideswiped three times. All three were hit and runs. One of them was caught on my dash cam and I got my deductible back. The other two got away.
All the rest were rear-end collisions. It happened so many times that I started to think I must be doing something wrong, but I couldn’t figure out what. Around that time I happened to look in the rear view mirror just before the impact to see the driver looking down at something on the passenger seat beside him.
Since then, I’ve understandably become very aware of what the drivers behind me are doing.
The last two times:
In late 2021 I was approaching an intersection and had a green light, but on the other side of the intersection was a school bus letting out kids. I stopped, and the jeep behind me hit me at full speed. My truck was totaled. I was knocked very briefly unconscious, but I was able to control the truck as I was pushed through the intersection and stopped.
Ironically, I had been thinking about trading in my truck for a new model. That day, on the drive home before the collision, I decided I wanted to keep it.
At the time, getting a replacement took months. I was getting to and from work driving the Civic that we bought for the kids to use. Two months after the truck was totaled I was in slow, stop-and-go traffic. Every time I had to stop, the car behind me would pull all the way up to within inches of my bumper. I wanted to scream at him. Of course, the person behind him hit him, and pushed him into me.
Luckily, that time it was slow, low speed impact. Easy damage to fix.
For the love of all that’s holy, follow at a safe distance! Three seconds minimum between you and the car in front of you. And when you stop, stop far enough back to see where the tires on the car in front of you touch the street.
If you want to slipstream (aka, drafting), become a race car driver.
Whenever you see a driver following too closely or driving erratically try to get away from them, change lanes, let them pass, whatever. Also try not to drive next to other cars. Stagger positions so if they have to serve into your lane they won’t hit you. Last tip is don’t drive in people’s blind spot when they are in the next lane. Pull ahead of them or let them get in front of you
I learned in New Jersey: driver following too close? Foot off the gas. You do not put it back on until they have angrily passed you and sped off into the night.
30? Insurance must be a nightmare
I haven’t had my rates increase noticeably for any of the accidents.
I had the same thought…
I’ve totaled 3 cars in the last 5 years (one deer on a blind curve on a county highway, 2 from hail) and the only change is this year they raised my deductible by $500…which given my only claims have been total losses I’m not sure how that really lowers their risk but I’ll take it
Whewwwww… not doubt you’ve become hyper aware now. Where I live, a big proportion of drivers do not understand minimum distance. They will keep one meter behind you even as you drive 70+. There are few things in life that get me as irate as this.
Mood. My city is usually bumper with people squeezing up against each other so people can’t get in. The only way to get around is too not participate. Use a bike if you can
Well, not 30 for me, but I’ve been rear ended driving ~5 times. Not even sudden stop issues or anything, like, literally sitting at a stop light and the next person just doesn’t stop and hits me.
One time was waiting for a train and a dude in a huge SUV slammed into me. They tried to offer me $200 cash to not report it to insurance, I said fuck off. Ended up being like a $12,000 repair and they literally said, “fuck you” on the phone to me with the insurance agents on the line.
