A nap usually does me good. But I’m having a hard time today because my family is in Chicago and I’m worried about the lunatics statements this week.
Weed
My cat.
Nothing. I just kind of ride it out. Every day.
You alright?
Nope.
I’m glad you are open about it. That’s a good thing. Are you open about it to anyone close to you in your life? Or not close to you? A therapist even?
I’ve been out of work since April. Trump stop funding the government department that employed me. Instead he sends troops to cities. As an American I can’t afford a therapist. Even if I had insurance I’ve had nothing but bad experience with therepy. I don’t have family that will help me. I’m going hungry most days to stretch my budget.
In a couple months I turn 40.
I’m sorry this is happening to you. Maybe you could live with someone as a room mate until things turn around.
How’s job hunting? Are you active in that?
I hope your birthday will be a good day, buddy. Cheers!
Judging by the other answers here you should get a pet. I hope you are seeking help.
Pets annoy the hell out me. I hate animals to a point where I became a vegetarian years ago. I’m not trolling, I’m 100% serious.
I don’t hate animals, but pets are expensive. Just spent $225 yesterday on an ear infection. My cat has an allergy we cant figure out. We can’t afford it. Recommending a pet to even a person who likes animals, but stuggles financially isn’t good advice.
This is my first pet, and I probably won’t get another just because cost is high for vet care and food/litter. We have two cats and we spend probably $200 a month or more just for necessities before vet visits. Flea/tick meds are monthly and $100 just for the two of em. So make that $300 a month on necessities, aye…
I can’t afford to love anything.
A little bit of exercise should help. Start with walks?
I’m going hungry most days. Walking doesn’t help.
If you we’re in my neighborhood I would feed youm that goes for anyone.
There’s that ‘lasagna for love’ organization, I’ve never used it, but I’ve heard about it. Give it a go?
I hate using Amazon, and I am absolutely on snap, but maybe I could send you some noodles or something? You just set up a list and I can purchase it for you.
A number of years ago, reddit had that page, idk the name I forgot, but so many people sent us food when we were struggling. I absolutely can pay it forward today. Lmk
I really do appreciate that from the bottom of my heart. That being said I’m trying to keep a level of animioty between myself and the internet.
I’m willing to give up that animioty for full time employment if you’re in a position to help with that.
I need a job over a hand out. Once again I very much appreciate the offer.
Yeah no worries, I wish I could help with employment truly. Best of luck to you
Any support circles in the community that can help government or otherwise? Some really nice people in those organizations that are ready to lend a hand
A cold shower. It takes a huge amount of effort for me to actually do it, but if I do, it’s the best thing ever. Immediately changes my mood, literally cools my head down and I can’t think anything else except “ahhhh cold!” while doing it.
Afterwards it feels like a big accomplishment.
I’m very lucky to have a friend that doesn’t try to make me “feel better”. She just sits with me and makes me feel… not alone.
I hope I can return the favor one day, but more importantly I hope she never feels this level of despair to begin with.
Cat head bump.
Cats, sex, drugs and food. In that order.
Cats first, wow.
I stand by what I said.
I love them
If you’re in a rough mood, you would rather pet your cats than have sex if you could choose, is what you’re saying? Not judging, just trying to gain perspective.
Male/female/other?
Sometimes what we would choose isn’t what’s best for us.
There’s just something about sitting in a depressed lump on the couch and having a cat hop up and snuggle into your lap that does wonders for your psyche.
I am male, the cats vary.
I mean, I had several cats over a span of 22 years, but sex is much better for my psyche. 😅 Whatever makes you feel good though, friend, that’s what you do!
As long as the cats are consenting!
My dog. Him being happy makes me happy.
This is usually it for me, but recently I’m feeling down because there’s a strong chance that my just-turned-one-year-old puppy will outlive me. By a lot. And then her life would be depressing because my partner would largely leave her home alone, not play with her, not take her anywhere, and not keep up with her medical needs.
Meanwile, I don’t actually want to live as long as she should and I would feel so guilty leaving her behind, even if I end up having little or no control over it.
So I alternate between living for my dogs (the other one is getting old, so I don’t worry about this with her so much) and wishing that I had never gotten the puppy. But of course, I got the puppy so I wouldn’t kill myself when the older dog dies. It’s a conundrum.
Laughing at stupid people usually does the trick.
Mindfulness meditation is sometimes all it takes. Your mental state is often fully under your control, and in those times you can choose to put down whatever you were upset about and then move on with being happy.
“Remember, it is not enough to be hit or insulted to be harmed, you must believe that you are being harmed. If someone succeeds in provoking you, realise your mind is complicit in the provocation. Which is why it is essential that we not respond impulsively to impressions; take a moment before reacting, and you will find it easier to maintain control.” – Epictetus
When I’m sad I often listen to The Lonely Island, the stupidity and silliness cheers me up.
Suffice to say that I basically know all their songs off by heart.
It’s all chemical for me. Eating, hormones, etc
Being restrained, beaten, and bitten, then made to orgasm as many times as master wants.
I try to find even 10 minutes alone to decompress and watch what little nature I can. Usually helps a bit.
That or a short walk or stretch, both good.
