• j0ester@lemmy.world
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    The word pedophile is so weirdly used. If an older man or lady meets a 16 year old… their technically not one, but in this day of age… they would be consider one to society…but they would be consider a Sex Offender. Depending on Level 1 or 2… all depends on what they did and if their state will think they will re-offend or not. Most Level 1’s do not.

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      It’s not weirdly used. Society always determines what is appropriate. We’ve decided, as a society, that humans cannot consent until 18. And any sex without consent is rape.

      That said, what is weird is that we conflate pedo and child rapist. You’re describing child rapists.

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        Get the fuck out, man.

        Teenagers fuck each other all the time, consensually.

        So there goes your argument about people younger than 18 being incapable of giving consent.

        For the record, I’m in my 40s and I wouldn’t go out with anyone below the age of 30, before someone accuses me of anything I ain’t.

        I hate predators as much as the next person, but let’s not go over to the other extreme.

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          Children can’t consent. Teenagers fucking is without consent. Their brains, on the average, are not capable of making that level of decision.

          But that doesn’t make it illegal.

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            Teenagers fucking is without consent. Their brains, on the average, are not capable of making that level of decision.

            What an absolute crock.

            That’s the theory behind the law, OK, but the notion that someone is incapable of consent the day before their 18th birthday, but fully capable the following day, is manifestly stupid. I’ve raised three kids to adulthood. All of them had sexual relations before they were 18 and there’s nothing wrong with any of them. Don’t let religious nuts and the pathologically undersexed make your laws, it won’t work out.

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              That’s the theory behind the law

              Exactly my point.

              Consent is a legal concept, not a moral one.

              There’s nothing wrong with teens fucking each other. It’s just not “with consent”. Consent is agreement between adults of sound mind. They are not adults.

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            The issue here is that most countries define the age of consent differently. I think we can agree that when a 16 year old agrees to sexual contact with another 16 year old, the dynamic is different than if they agree to it with a 40 year old. Absolutely. But that does not mean that the 16 year old doesnt understand what they are doing.

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              Indeed. It’s based on each society. That said, I remember myself at 16. I in no way understood the risk/reward of my choices. It probably took me to 25 to be what I would consider fully conscious.

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        We’ve decided, as a society, that humans cannot consent until 18.

        Older criminal laws were based on that idea, usually called “statutory rape”. Modern laws about sexual abuse of children usually ignore the concept of consent entirely to allow for more nuance.

        One example of nuance is exceptions for people close in age so that non-abusive relationships between teenagers don’t suddenly become crimes when someone has a birthday. Another is that consent is often a factor in the severity of the penalty.

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          consent is often a factor in the severity of the penalty

          If there’s no consent, it’s sexual assault at a minimum and more likely rape.

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          Yes and that’s completely fair. It’s about the imbalance of power. An 18 y.o. and one day, is exactly the same as they were two days prior.

          But the cutoff has to be somewhere, and the guy I was replying to was talking about proper adults and 16 y.o.

          That’s a highschool sophomore. And I think we’d all agree a sophomore dating a college student would be pretty imbalanced.

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            And I think we’d all agree a sophomore dating a college student would be pretty imbalanced.

            I was a college student at 17, but I think you had a larger age difference in mind. I do think we can all agree there should be laws against adults sexually exploiting teenagers.

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        Your society might have in mine a 14 year old can consent and it wouldn’t be considered rape in that case, still a crime though.