• DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works
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    6 days ago

    They’re still alive, but I really hate talking to them. I wanna ask about what China was like when they grew up, like a sort of documentary interview type of thing and I write down the answers so I have first hand account of it. Because I didn’t have much memories of it, I was only a kid at the time when we left for the US.

    But asking questions like that really feels awkward since they’d start saying shit like “Look how much we sacrificed for you” and all that shit, so nah I’m good, I heard enough when they were talking to each other in the living room and through their phone calls with friends and relatives, I get the gist of it, they suffered a lot so therefore they think its okay to get “strict” with kids (aka: neglect and emotional abuse and manipulation), I don’t need to ask for specifics I’ve heard enough.

    • 200ok@lemmy.worldOP
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      4 days ago

      Totally fair. And I never thought about the “documentary interview” style of asking… This is really interesting and I wish there was a way to do this without getting the types of responses you mentioned.