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Cake day: December 14th, 2024

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  • I have experience with this. There is nothing damaging about co-sleeping occasionally. The risk is either of you becoming dependent.

    A 27 year old single mother, if I had to guess, doesn’t plan on staying single forever. At some point a significant other, once properly introduced, will be staying the night and your son should not be a part of that.

    The other issue I see here is “it’s kind of nice not having to sleep alone every night.” This does not strike me as healthy, especially when he stops co-sleeping.

    Ultimately, you are the adult, and you are the caretaker. I would highly recommend getting your son a regular therapist to guide you through this.





  • Yes. But the part that non-violence allows is that we can set it up to fight on our terms rather than theirs.

    They want gun battles. Charging into enemy formations. Units vs units. They want to make themselves heros of battle. But they will do it only if they convince themselves they will always win.

    That’s not how the modem organized military can be defeated. They will be defeated by guerilla tactics. Assassinations. Sabotage. Economics. The first thing that needs to happen is for the population to witness just how much they support each other.

    The DNC may be useless, but as long as they keep MAGA thinking the opposition is weak, they will massively underestimate their own vulnerability.



  • Let’s start with the fact that we met at 14. This is important because my attraction to her was because she was (and still is) incredibly hot. 100lbs, hourglass, eyes that made me melt.

    Well, all four years of highschool I was tutoring her through her remedial classes. She just barely graduated. As always though, thinking with your dick gets you in trouble.

    I helped her start work on a two year degree she had a pell grant and scholarship for - that she couldn’t finish. Which of course she blamed on me because I was “too involved in my own education.”

    She questioned the necessity of vaccines for a long time. Thankfully I got her opinion changed before we had a kid.

    I remember when we first started dating she told me I “didnt have to be so smarty all the time.” I asked her what she meant and she said “well, have you tried like not thinking or learning everything you want to know?”

    I felt bad for her. She couldn’t stand most jobs. I had this feeling I needed to be with her because she really had a dismal future. So I married her. I mean, come on, she’s hot. Maybe she can cook (she couldn’t cook well), or doesn’t mind chores, and she can be a little supportive. Plus, I would make enough that she wouldn’t need to work. And she really wanted to be a stay at home mom. Worked for me.

    She couldn’t do the stay at home mom. She hated that “I got to work a job I liked” and she “had to be responsible.”

    Fast forward a bit. She gets a job. She messes around with her boss, meets a customer has a “one time thing” with him. I’m crushed beyond belief. COVID comes around. I feel terrible about the potential for divorcing her. We try to work it out, im suspicious about the amount of time she spends with other men, she convinces me I’m too controlling. I discover her sexting nudes n stuff 3 years after the affair and she admits to it being the same guy (who I never found out who it was). She finally gets a job when I decide to divorce, but it comes with no benefits. Because she doesn’t want to work full or part time.

    There’s more, but honestly I’m kind of done for now lol.


  • I could write an entire book on the reasons. The main factor was she cheated on me, wanted to make it work, I believed her, she hid the affair for 3 years (not very well) I discovered it again.

    Men can be abused too. Yeah, I’m physically much bigger, but there is absolutely no way to defend yourself without looking like the bad guy, which she was well aware of.

    She was also terrible in bed. And unfortunately about as sharp as a bowling ball and a few fries short of a happy meal.

    Advice: Don’t marry someone just because they are hot.




  • I didn’t really think about it before, but yes, the tactile sensation of its smooth but clearly not artificially smooth surface is there. The apple isn’t in one piece like this. It’s fragmented but connected (seemingly like everything else in my memory). When I think of an apple, the shape, the various red shades, surface feel, crispness, smell and flavor of a bite, as well as the visual guidance of a knife to cut into it all manifest at nearly the same time.

    And yes, that’s exactly how I would describe it like a framebuffer. Almost as fast too, a single frame where an image of an apple sits on a table then the rest of my processing continues.

    For whatever reason, computer science and architecture has helped me explain this as sort of a populated instance of class Apple. This instance sits in hard storage, and retrieves it when I get apple from main memory.

    But that’s not just all. Apple is a fruit, so I also get information about the fruit object, and fruits connected to it too, in real time.

    I have ADHD, so I know my brain is physically wired differently. I suspect it’s related to the “cobweb” of thoughts that is normally present.



  • No. PISD.

    Post infidelity. It’s traumatic but entirely around a former intimate relationship.

    PISD is a normal response to this. It has severe depression, severe impact to self-esteem and general confidence, severe impact to work performance, etc. Etc. it’s a million times worse than.

    I’m not saying he’s not a suicide risk. The actual incidence of it is really high. In fact I’m surprised he hadn’t attempted. I had well controlled depression before my spouse’s affair.

    There is no medication aside from sedatives that will help OP with this. And sedatives only delay recovery. He’s doing what he needs to, and he’s wondering why people are giving up and leaving him be.

    It’s because this shit is that fucking draining. Any LPCC knows they are just as much at risking their licence as any doctor. Saying ‘go see a doc and get meds’ is just as dismissive as his former friends who have given up with him.

    Honestly? As long as he’s being honest with a LPCC, he’s doing better than he would be in a hospital here in the US.