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Cake day: June 24th, 2025

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  • I tried cognitive behavioural therapy which helped with a bunch of other stuff, but didn’t help me get to the root of my core challenges. I’m with one now which does the following (according to her website):

    Theoretically, I am grounded in the psychodynamic tradition and the neuroaffective understanding of attachment and emotional development.

    I realized the books I’ve read and got a lot out of may only exist in Danish: “Drop opdragelsen” and “derfor forelsker du dig aldrig i den forkerte”


  • I’ve been there. Reasons for this might be different depending on who you are. For me, I’d been hurt by the ones that I loved, and subconsciously put up a wall to protect myself so I was “prepared” in case I would get hurt again. On the flipside I also couldn’t be my most authentic self, so I felt a lot more distanced when being with friends and family. For me, a lot of talking, therapy, and books helped me tremendously, but I’m still on a journey.

    So yes, it’s normal, and it can get better.







  • I just say “sorry, I haven’t”. I think as long as you just try to acknowledge them in a good way, i.e. smiling, maintaining eye contact, being polite, so you still acknowledge them as the human being that they are.

    Sure it’s bad to lie, but so is being insensitive with the truth, whether it’s “I wanna spend the money on myself” or “there are more effective ways to make a difference than giving money to you”