There’s a limit to how carefully you can word things to protect its meaning from people determined to read it in bad faith. I have it too - the desire to be long winded to preemptively protect myself from misunderstanding. But there’s a risk that we’ll turn everything we say into long blocks of soft useless mush. There’s no precision precise enough to be safe.
We have to, I think, decide to write for people willing to reach for us when we hold out a hand. There are enough willing to try that any general misunderstandings can be clarified with conversations other people can read if they want to understand. If enough of us are willing to do this for each other, it might be possible to build spaces where people who slap that outheld hand away don’t have to dictate conversation. And maybe we can both be less wordy.
https://www.specialolympics.org/stories/impact/why-the-r-word-is-the-r-slur